Thursday, December 31, 2009


In 2010 I want to be healthy, peaceful, happy, joyful, calmer, wiser, lighter (both emotionally and physically) more creative, active, patient, understanding, loving, compassionate, spiritual, sensitive and knowledgeable. I want to always focus on the present moment without thinking about yesterday nor worrying about tomorrow. I want to speak less and listen more. I want to eat more organic food and become a better cook to be able to prepare yummy food for Ela so that we don't have any eating issues. I will never force Ela to eat more than she wants and I will never compare her with other children. I will try not to push her into things I once wanted to do as a child if she doesn't like it like ballet, tennis, piano classes, etc. I wish to be an objective parent. I want to be more patient and understanding with my parents (esp. when staying with me). I won't say things I don't mean (just to be nice) but at the same time I want to be less direct with people who get hurt easily (e.g. mother-in-law) and stay silent instead. I want to discover new tastes and I want to travel to Istanbul more often. I want to always remind myself that I don't "possess" Ela but that I'm just here to guide, guard, support, help, teach, advise and raise her. I want to be less judgmental and more patient with Alper and always remember that everybody carries his own piece of truth and there's no right or wrong. I want to smile to at least one stranger every day. I want to be bothered less by people smoking on the street or in cafes next to me. I want to be surrounded by people with higher vibrating energies. I want to say THANK YOU more often. I want to see the simple beauties in my life and show gratitude for the shining sun, the blue sky, the pouring rain, the beautiful trees and flowers. I want to develop my knowledge on Quantum Thinking and apply it more, I want to practise Reiki more often and learn more about alternative healing techniques and spirituality in general. I want to continue to practise Pilates and start to practise Yoga again. I want to find my main purpose in life and why I am here in this lifetime. Amen.

Tuesday, December 29, 2009


For the last 2-3 weeks I had the feeling that Ela was quite ready for solid food and this Sunday I finally decided that it was time! I started with pears at breakfast and on Friday I'll move the pear to lunch and give carrots at breakfast. She loved the new taste and seemed to be quite happy to get something other than breastmilk. I wasn't sure at first what to start with since there're some views that say it's better to start with veggies since fruits contain sugar and babies get used to the sweet taste and refuse to eat veggies later but then I read a nice article that supported the opposite's the relevant paragraph:

I've heard that it's better to start vegetables before fruits. Is this true?

Purists recommend that vegetables be introduced before fruits so that infants don't learn to expect that food should always taste sweet. This is one of those nutritional directives that sound great in theory, but many of us who have fed lots of babies have found it hard to put into practice. First of all, babies are born with a sweet tooth. Their tiny tongues are more richly supplied with sweet tastebuds than with any others. This makes sense, because human milk is sweet, and breastfed babies are less likely to willingly accept the bland taste of vegetables than formula-fed babies. While there is no doubt that vegetables are nutritionally superior to fruits, most parents find that babies will happily eat fruits, making them hassle-free first foods. The nutritional content of starter foods is of secondary importance; the main goal of these early solid food feedings is for the baby to learn how to swallow foods of different textures. You're likely to have more success with fruits than with vegetables. When introducing veggies, try the sweet ones first: carrots and sweet potatoes. If you have a baby who loves vegetables, good for you! Don't worry if your baby attacks veggies with less enthusiasm than fruit. He'll eventually learn to like them if you keep offering them.


I cooked the pears a bit before feeding her to prevent diarrhea and since her stool became a bit watery after a few hours I was glad I did that...due to teething Ela had less frequent bowel movements lately but since Sunday she started to poop very frequent and easy again ;))) (I still find it funny to be so happy about poops and wees and gas releases!)

Thursday, December 24, 2009

First shoes

I know it's quite early to think about shoes but I came across this article...

Here’s what we know for sure about baby shoes: They are darn cute. Indeed, many parents confess to buying their baby’s first pair of shoes strictly for pleasure. Beyond the eye appeal, though, there are conflicting opinions about baby shoes. We asked Denis Leduc, chair of the community paediatrics committee of the Canadian Paediatric Society (CPS), to lay to rest the most common myths.
Babies need shoes to ensure proper foot development.
Not true, says Leduc. “A shoe does not shape the foot better — in fact, there is a body of evidence that the development of the arch is encouraged better by walking barefoot.” The CPS statement on infant shoes further says, “Walking barefoot develops good toe gripping and muscular strength.”
However, sometimes a baby’s foot, or walking gait, looks odd to parents. Leduc explains, “Sometimes the intrauterine position will have an effect in the first months. The legs may be bowed or the feet may be turned in. Usually this will just go away. And babies will sometimes stand with their feet turned in, or turned out like Charlie Chaplin, but this is related to how the hips are placed for stability, not the feet. The foot just sort of goes along with the rest of the leg.”
In rare cases where there is a problem that requires treatment, says Leduc, “it might involve physiotherapy or casts, followed by a special orthopaedic shoe.”
Babies need shoes for ankle or arch support.
Wrong again. According to Leduc, there’s no evidence that babies need support when walking. “A shoe doesn’t improve ankle strength,” he says, “on the contrary.”
As for arch supports, these may be necessary for an older child or adult, but babies don’t need them. You might even say they have their own built-in arch support. “A baby’s foot has a fat pad underneath it that makes it look like there is no arch,” explains Leduc. “But the foot isn’t really flat — the fat pad is just concealing the arch.” So a really prominent arch support may not even fit the shape of the baby’s foot.
“A soft shoe is fine,” says Leduc. “It doesn’t have to be a rigid shoe. A baby is out of shoes in three to six months and you could end up spending a lot of money.”
Of course, you’ll have individual preferences. If your baby tends to get hot, sweaty feet, for example, you may want to avoid vinyl shoes, which don’t breathe as well as leather, nylon or canvas. And while ankle boots have no great advantage medically, they are harder for babies to remove.
Whatever the price, a shoe that fits well is important. The CPS advises that shoes must fit properly at the heel (no slipping and sliding), and that new shoes should leave about 1.25 cm (about half an inch) between the longest toe and the tip of the shoe. It can be hard to tell on a baby, so an experienced salesperson can be a big help in ensuring the fit.
Barefoot is always better.
Now that’s going too far. Shoes provide protection, warmth and grip on a slippery surface. “I don’t think they need shoes really unless they go outside,” says Zoé Schuler, mom to nine-month-old Emily. “To protect from rocks, glass and things like that. In the house I would let her go barefoot or in grippy socks.”
“A shoe is to protect a little foot from being bumped, scraped or injured,” agrees Leduc. “That’s all.”
Or not quite all. Shoes work better than anything for keeping little socks on. And sometimes… well sometimes, you have to indulge yourself and add a pair of shoes to the outfit — just because they are so darn cute.

Eski bir yazi yeniden: Cocugun Nefes Egitimi

Kendim de dahil olmak uzere etrafimda bir suru yeni bebek sahibi oldugu icin asagidaki yaziyi yeniden hatirlamak ve hatirlatmak istedim...

Bebeklerin diyaframlarini cok iyi kullandiklarini hepiniz duymussunuzdur. Bebek dogum anindan sonra oyle bir ilk sesleniste bulunur ki, yaklasIk uc kilogramlik agirliga sahip vucudu ile butun hastaneyi cinlatacak yuksek bir volume ulasir.Kendinden otuz hacim daha fazla akcigerlere sahip insanlar bu volume asla ulasamazlar. Bebek butun sIkayet ve ihtiyaclarini gun boyu aglayarak ifade etmesine ragmen sesi kisilmaz. Ama yetiskin insan bes dakika aglasa sesi kisiliriki gun kendine gelemez. “Nedir bebegi daha fazla ses volumune ve ses dayanikliligina sahip kilan sey?” diye sorarsaniz. Cevabi, "henuz bozulmamis olarak tam kapasite ile kullanabildigi diyafram adalesidir."derim. O zaman sunu anlariz ki diyafram adalesini bebek daha sonra sahip olamayacagi bir performansta kullaniliyor. Peki, daha sonra ne oluyor da bebek cok yuksek performansta kullandigi diyafram adalesini ayni basarida kullanmaktan uzaklasiyor? Bu sorunun cevabinin iyi anlasilabilmesi icin biraz teknik bilgi gerekiyor.Oncelikle diyafram solunumu ( alt solunum ) ile kaburga solunumu ( ust solunum )arasindaki farklara goz atmak gerekir. Ust solunum trioksin ve adrenalin salgisi ile sempatik sistemi inhibe eden bir etki yaratir. Sempatik sistem aktive oldugunda kisi yasam heyecani, nese, dikkat kazanirken ayni zamanda korku ve endise yuklenir. Savas ya da kac etkisi ortaya cikar. Bu durumun zihindeki karsiligi ayrilik bilinci, benlik bilinci, kutuplasma, rekabet, deneyimleme arzusu, olmayana erdirgeyerek ogrenme durumudur. Diyafram kullanimi ile parasempatik sistemin sinir dugumlerine basinc uygulandiginda sempatik sistemin karsiti olan yuzles ya da kabul et etkisi ortaya cikar. Parasempatik sisteme bagli salgilarin zihinde yarattigi surec birlik bilinci, beraberlik, eslesme, sessizlik, sakinlik, kosulsuz sevgi, olani oldugu gibi kabul etmedir. Butunsel solunumda bu iki sistem birbirine koordineli olarak calistigi zaman her sey tam olmasi gerektigi gibidir. Ancak bu iki sistemden birinin onde olmasi butun dengeyi bozar. Simdi gelelim bebek ne zaman ve ne sekilde diyaframini kullanmaktan vazgeciyor sorusuna… Dunyaca unlu cocuk uzerine uzmanlasmis psikologlarin genel gorusune gore cocuk gelisme doneminde uc farkli donemden geciyor. Bu gecis donemlerinde rehberlik verilmediginde zorlaniyor. Bu donemlerden ilki 2-3 yas arasina denk geliyor.Tamamen melek olan ve dualiteden hic haberi olmayan bebek, bu donemde ilk defaiyi- kotu, guzel-cirkin, dogru-yanlis, kadin-erkek vs…gibi dualitik kavramlarla tanisiyor. Bu konuda rehberlik verilmediginde ayrilik bilincine geciyor ve kendince tanimlar yaparak kutuplasiyor. Bu ona yapilan “erkek adam aglamaz”, ya da “sen kiz cocugusun haddini bil” seklinde empozelerle butunluk anlayisindan uzaklasmasina yol aciyor. Sahip oldugunu zannettigi degerlerini koruma arzusu yuzunden endise ve korku duymasi sonucunda sempatik sinir sistem devamli aktive oluyor. Bu durum onun diyafram solunumu yerine devamli ust solunumda kalmasini gerektiriyor ve sonucta diyafram solunumu kaybediliyor. Cocugun 2-3 yaslarindaki diyaframdan ilk uzaklasmasini, ikinci kritik donem olarak ilk okul oncesindeki gecis donemi takip eder. Burada tamamen korku ve endise ile beslenen, yaristirilan, rekabet icine sokulan cocuk tamamen sempatik sinir sisteminin etkisi altinda yasamini surdurur. Bunu ucuncu devre olan ergenlik donemi takip eder. Kendini karsi cinsten eksIk veya fazla gorme, daha iyiyi olusturmak icin digerlerini ekarte etme empozesi (okul birincisi olma, OSS imtihaninda herkesi gecmek zorunda olma ) ve degerlerini koruma arzusu ( mal sahibi olma ) vs gibi sahiplenme ve beklentilerin yarattigi korku ve endiselerle tamamen diyaframdan kopup ust solunuma tasinir. O artik cok nadir zamanlarda diyaframini hatirlar ve derin bir ohhh cekmeyi bile unutur. Bundan sonra toplumun onergeleri, dinler, felsefeler, orfler, gelenekler, anne babanin kendi anlayisini baskilamasi, yasam kaygisi, hizlanan zamanin ve teknolojinin rekabet empozesi tamamen birlik bilincinden ayrilik bilincine gecilmesine, beraberinde korku ve endisenin sonucu olan ust solunuma gecilmesini garantiler. Artik bu noktadan sonra ozel bir egitim ve farkindalik calismasi yapmadan tekrar diyaframi kullanabilmek neredeyse imkansizdir. Ust solunumun yetersiz oksijen alma modeline bagli olarak fiziksel, duygusal ve dusunsel rahatsizliklar gundeme gelir. Aci ve zorluklarla dolu kisir bir dongunun icinde bilincalti sIkismis hicbir cikis yolu bulamayan insan profili ortaya cikar. Cocuk bu kritik gecis donemlerinde dogru rehberlik alarak ve nefes tekniklerinin sundugu dogru nefes alma calismalarini yaparak nefesini kontrol etmeyi ogrenebilir. Bunun sonucunda fizik duygu ve dusunce bedenleri uzerinde tam bir hakimiyet kurarak her turlu zorlugun ustesinden gelebilecek bir yeterlilige ulabilir. Sadece nefesini dogru kullanabildigi icin her zaman ve her yerde dengeli ve uyumlu olarak yüksek bilinc ve daimi farkindalik boyutunda kalabilir. Mustafa Kartal www.nefesteknik.azbuz.com0555 697 50 64

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

LONG TIME NO SEEEEE...'s been such a long time since my last entry...almost a year..though it feels much longer...probably because my life has changed a hundred percent since little Ela arrived on 22nd June this year and I was definitely re-born with her...I can't describe the feeling of being a's just not possible..I guess only a mother can understand the amazing love, compassion, affection, passion and amazing connection you have with your baby.

Yesterday we celebrated Ela's half year birthday...our first six months together have been very joyful and full with happiness. Ela is pretty much an angel baby and I really can't complain about anything in general..she almost slept through the first three months and after her 4th month we were able to set up a routine which has allowed me to have my own time in the evenings and during her naps at daytime. 2 weeks ago she went through her first teething period and I have to say she coped very well with this dramatic change in her body...she only became red cheeks and was slightly fussy...I think she's also been quite ready for solid food for a while now but due to the risk of allergies and asthma I decided to start this weekend with pear puree...I'm planning to stick to Annabel Karmel's meal planner for babies. Starting with pears at breakfast for three days and then introducing a new food and moving the pears to lunch time. I'm planning to give squash, sweet potatoes, carrots, apples, oatmeal and (brown) rice cereal at the beginning.
Today we went to the pediatrician for a routine check-up...Ela weighs 8.450 gr and is 69.5 cm long now...she's relatively big for her age but I think babies are bigger now than they used to be since almost all of my friends' babies are bigger than average. Concerning her motor skills she started to roll from her back onto her stomach (only to the right) 10 days ago..when lying on her back she can move backwards when there's to push with her feet...she's also trying to crawl but so far she can only move a few centimeters. Her favorite activity nowadays is sitting (with my support) and grabbing toys and throwing them away, picking them up and throwing away again, picking up and throwing away again, this could probably go on for hours if I didn't get bored ;)))
She's also crazy about computer keyboards...she almost loses herself in front of the screen...I wonder if there are any toys that look like real laptops or computers???