Monday, April 19, 2010

When exactly does Ego step in?

I think it was at the third playgroup gathering when Ela experienced the first violation of her rights when another baby grabbed her toy out of her hands...she learned very quickly and did the same to another baby after 2 min. Was that the first time her ego stepped in? Are babies actually born with an ego and start to develop it as soon as they start socializing? Or do they learn everything after they're born?
Whenever I watch Ela playing I'm mesmerized by her purity...she doesn't care how she looks like, or what she's wearing, or what other people think of her, how she has to behave, how she has to act, etc. She just wants to eat, drink, sleep, pee, poop, taken care of and basically have fun.
Like all other babies.
So when exactly do these little angels lose their "purity"? Do we teach them to listen to their egos? Or is there a way to prevent their ego to develop?
After all, many "aware" people try to get rid of their ego later in life....but wouldn't it be easier if it wasn't developed in the first place? Is that even possible?


  1. I have been wondering about the same thing. Maybe once awareness of possession sets in?
    Love Eva

  2. Yes, that's what I thought, too...and I wonder if there's a way to prevent the ego to take over but at the same time nurture the child's confidence and self-esteem...all the books I read about this subject talk about how to 'tame' the ego as an adult, none of them said anything about how it actually develops during childhood...and if there's a way to 'control' that.

  3. Hello
    I thought i would share this on your blog so that others could read : ) I came across this article on the Creation of the Ego... the writer discusses the importance of creating a "stable" Ego in infancy and that the Ego begins to form at 7/8months of age...its interesting reading...

  4. Thx for sharing this link Isla, while reading it I realized that I'm actually not thinking about the same concept of ego as described in this it's rather a positive thing, something the child should develop as early as possible and once it has a "stable ego" it's kind of on the right track...I guess the term ego is not a very clearly-defined me ego is more like the pain body Eckhart Tolle describes in his books; our false self that tries to create and attract dramas, conflicts and problems and lives in the past and the future rather than the present moment.