Monday, October 18, 2010

Jennifer Hoffman's very relevant three messages for today

Message Nr. 1 is for Alper:

Who Cares For You?
Everyone in our care zone is someone we have a soul contract or karmic obligation with, or have made a vow or promise to in one or more lifetimes. Depending on the nature of our interaction, we can feel responsible for them or believe we have done something we must atone for. In our desire to fulfill these obligations we put all of our energy towards them and forget that we also have an obligation to ourselves, to end this cycle and clear our karma. Without that understanding we are in an endless cycle of trying to care for others and ignore our own needs.
All of our lifetimes are cycles of healing potential but unless we move beyond recognizing our obligation to also heal ourselves, which is shown to us by the healing demands others place on us through their words or actions, our focus is on trying to fix whatever we believe is broken or missing in their lives. We know, from the energy we share, that we may have contributed to their powerlessness or helplessness in some way and we want to fix them. But they are also responsible for clearing their own energy and taking an active role in resolving their own problems.
As we are attending to others' needs, we are trying to gain their forgiveness for our role in their pain and forget that they participated in this process as well. As the saying goes, 'it takes two to tango.' Whatever transpired between us was as much their responsibility as ours, sometimes more. Any relationship in which we feel we must take care of someone contains clues to our own healing and release. What do we need to do for ourselves in this situation to complete it, instead of engaging in cycles of endless giving that will never give us what we need?
We have to remind ourselves that encoded within every relationship is the information we need for our own healing. Fulfilling our contracts is not dependent on getting another's approval, we can make the choice to end karmic cycles and let others be responsible for their own actions. We never get extra points for suffering and by paying attention to our own needs we ensure that we get the care we need so our energy goes where it can best serve our own growth and healing. This week, as you think about someone you feel responsible for and ask what promises you are trying to fulfill and remember that you do not need their permission or approval to forgive and release yourself from the obligations you have created with them.

Message Nr. 2 is for Alper, for me, and everybody who wants to balance heart & mind :

Uriel's Message -- Seek with an Open Mind
As you open your heart to receiving and create a space where you allow yourself to be blessed by the unlimited abundance that is available to you, you must also open your mind so you can acknowledge that there are greater possibilities than those limited by your thinking. When the heart desires what the mind believes is impossible your dreams always seem to be beyond your reach because you cannot manifest what you do not think is possible for you. Your heart and mind must be in balance to create boundless abundance, joy and love and to fulfill your dreams.The open heart transcends the third dimension and creates from higher vibrations that allow the manifestation of miracles. Without the agreement and equal participation of the mind, which is closed when it is grounded in the third dimension, your desires are limited by the mind's judgments. Unlimited creation is your destiny and this is in true alignment with your heart. You must open the mind to allow it to be on the same plane of creation as the heart or you will feel stuck and limited in every aspect of your life.
How can you manifest your heart's desire if your mind is not listening to its voice? When it is closed it unable to access the higher dimensions in your field of potential, in which you find everything that is not in your life in this moment. Everything you desire is possible for you and the wish for it comes from your heart. Your closed mind will see this as impossible; your open mind agrees with the heart and creates the thoughts that make the wish possible.
Without the balance between the heart and mind you become a limited creator, grounded in that which you can know through the mind's logic and intellect. The heart is filled with your dreams, and holds the promise of joy and love that are your birthright but their fulfillment lies within the mind, through which you send out the thoughts that create the heart's desires. Allow your mind to be as open as your heart is so when the heart speaks to you of your life's possibilities your mind is able to expand to include your dreams in its thinking and you will find the abundance, joy and love you seek.

Message Nr. 3 is for me and all parents:

Your Children Chose You
So many parents write to me of how they think they are not good parents because they are divorced, struggling financially, feel that can't meet their children's needs, are not doing the right things or fulfilling their obligations as parents. I know that this isn't true because children and parents choose each other, based on their joint needs within the scope of that relationship and to get the experiences they need for healing as well as establish the karma they will have to deal with. Whatever you are experiencing as a parent and provider at this moment was known to you and to your children before they chose you as their parent.
Even if you are penniless, homeless and living in your car, that is part of the experience your children needed from you as part of their soul journey. The new generations of children have compassionate hearts and some of them need to experience suffering so they can better understand how others suffer. Some need to live with a single parent, father or mother, so they can build that energy within themselves by seeing it in action in their parent. Others want to learn how to triumph over struggle because they failed in a past lifetime, so they will chose a parent who can teach them about experiencing and overcoming financial, emotional, physical or spiritual struggle.
We equate good parenting with providing everything we think our children need on a material level, forgetting that they are also souls on their own path. Everything they experience in their life with you is part of that path. Their learning doesn't start when they are adults, it begins even before conception, as they are choosing the details of their life experience, which includes the parents who will be their best teachers for the lessons they needed to learn and the work they needed to do.
When you think that you are not being a good parent, you can remember that these choices are deliberate and well considered. You chose each other because you could be the parent they needed and you agreed to be part of everything that you are doing right now. So mistakes are not happening and you are not letting your children down. In fact, you are probably exceeding their expectations and doing exactly what they need you to do. Instead of judging your performance as a parent, be grateful that you are doing the perfect job and the life you have with your children is the one they also chose to have with you.


  1. What an amazing blog you have with some very deep and heartfelt writing! I will definitely be following. Thank you so much for putting me on your blog roll - it is much appreciated.

    xo Erin

  2. Oh,thx so much for your kind words Erin. I will definitely be following you, too!
    Love from Izmir...